This prayer is inspired by John and Paul Sandford’s (now deceased) writings on this subject. Their contention is that we invite certain treatment upon ourselves because of our negative expectations of how we will be treated. We see biblical support for this in Deuteronomy when the Israelites continually disbelieved in God’s goodness and faithfulness and believed that they would die in the desert. They tried the Lord’s patience and as a result they were not allowed to enter the Promised Land (Deuteronomy 1:26-46).
The consequences of our negative expectations can play out in a lot of different ways in our lives and may not necessarily be easy to detect. It might be helpful to do an audit of your life (with the guidance of the Holy Spirit) to see if there is a repetitive pattern of treatment that you have been subjected to throughout your life that does not appear to be connected to a certain individual (for example being cheated of money, being cheated on, being bullied, being harassed, etc.).
Prayer to Help Break Fearful Expectations
Lord, I first pray that you reveal to me, if you have not already, a particular ungodly expectation that I have that has been hurting me in my life and manifesting itself because of my ungodly expectations. [Please wait to see if the Holy Spirit reveals something.] Lord, I repent of this ungodly expectation [please name it] and all fear related to it. Lord, you did not give us a spirit of fear but of power, love and self-control. I repent of this fearful expectation and ask your forgiveness Lord for not having addressed this earlier and for projecting my fears and ungodly expectations unto other people and thereby defiling them.
I thank you Lord for your forgiveness, your mercy and your graciousness. I pray that this ungodly expectation and any related fear be broken on the Rock that is Christ Jesus and that any ungodly roots that it has in any part of my being be pulled out and replaced with your love, which casts out all fear. I thank you Lord and I praise you Lord for delivering me from this.